Confidence and blocks
Low confidence rarely looks like doubt. It looks like preparation that never ends, or a project postponed by one more week.
The situation
You know what should happen: send the application, ask for the raise, speak up in the meeting, publish the work. And you do not. Or you do it so late it no longer counts.
From the outside it looks like procrastination. From the inside it is a constant calculation about what you stand to lose if it fails.
What is really going on
A block is almost always a protection: as long as you have not tried, the verdict does not exist. Perfectionism works the same way — it turns "I do not dare" into "it is not ready yet", which is considerably more comfortable.
These mechanisms rest on old, rarely examined beliefs: that worth is measured by performance, that a mistake is final, that a bad first impression cannot be recovered.
What SAM can do here — and what it cannot
SAM can name the belief under the block rather than argue with the block itself, spot the reasoning distortions that sustain it, and propose steps small enough to actually be taken — not motivating goals.
It also confronts, which matters more here than elsewhere: when the same project is postponed session after session, it says so. A coach who validates one more postponement is useless.
What it cannot: treat social phobia or an established anxiety disorder. The boundary is not blurry — when avoidance stops you functioning, that is care, not coaching.
When to see a professional
Some signals are not coaching territory: sadness that will not lift for weeks, sleep or appetite durably broken, anxiety that stops you functioning, rising substance use, thoughts of harming yourself.
In those cases the right address is a doctor, a psychologist or a psychiatrist — not an AI. SAM says so when the signals accumulate, and presses if the situation persists. It does not simply keep coaching.
Going further, with a human
SAM works with you inside the app, and the essentials stay free. If you also want individual, paid support with an actual human, Malachie runs coaching sessions outside SENSAÏ.
It is one-to-one time with Malachie directly, to go deep on one specific subject. Book a session: https://tidycal.com/malachiekengne5/individual-coaching-session