Mental load
It is not the number of tasks that exhausts you. It is being the only place where all of them are stored.
The situation
You hold the list. Appointments, deadlines, what needs restocking, what needs anticipating so the week holds together. Nobody assigned you that role and nobody sees it. When you break, you are told you only had to ask.
The most reliable symptom is not tiredness: it is being unable to put the list down. Even at rest, it keeps running.
What is really going on
Mental load is not a sum of tasks, it is permanent supervision work: anticipating, arbitrating, remembering on behalf of others. That work is invisible because it produces nothing you can show — it merely stops things from failing.
On top of it sits a belief that locks everything: that delegating would cost more than doing, or that asking for help would mean admitting you cannot cope. Until that belief is named, no organisational fix holds.
What SAM can do here — and what it cannot
SAM can help get the list out of your head and look at it: what is genuinely yours, what you picked up by default, what could simply not be done. It can name the belief blocking delegation, and come back to it session after session when it returns — that is what it is built to do.
What it cannot: negotiate for you, change the split at home, or move the load onto someone else. Working on the conversation does not replace having it.
When to see a professional
Some signals are not coaching territory: sadness that will not lift for weeks, sleep or appetite durably broken, anxiety that stops you functioning, rising substance use, thoughts of harming yourself.
In those cases the right address is a doctor, a psychologist or a psychiatrist — not an AI. SAM says so when the signals accumulate, and presses if the situation persists. It does not simply keep coaching.
Going further, with a human
SAM works with you inside the app, and the essentials stay free. If you also want individual, paid support with an actual human, Malachie runs coaching sessions outside SENSAÏ.
It is one-to-one time with Malachie directly, to go deep on one specific subject. Book a session: https://tidycal.com/malachiekengne5/individual-coaching-session